Who's vocabulary is more important?!

Don't you sometimes feel people are misinterpreting what you are saying or writing in your life, and sometimes you feel like no matter what you say or do to clarify your conversations with others, they still continue to repeat what they think is right about what you said. Some people just give-up to continue repeating themselves, to clarify what they are talking about. There are times, for example, there are employees who would just keep their mouth shot and take what their supervisors or managers or employers say and write about them at where where work, than arguing about who is more accurate about a scenario. People may have signed documents, whether true or not, agree or not, just to put things behind them and move on....

Another simple example is when immigrants have gone to another country to live and they may get overwhelmed by others in a new country telling them what is "right." In a new county, natives may talk to the immigrants with no "accent," but immigrants who have the accents and limited-vocabulary, may just agree with others to just get by, and sometimes not knowing what they agreed to! Many times immigrants may feel intimidated by others who continuously insist on being "right", especially If they are under someone's position of authority. For example, no matter how much immigrants learn the new language, due to their "accents" and no matter how long they have lived in an immigrated country, some people may make them feel like they are never speaking or saying things "correctly/right" way. Due to such communication issues, sometimes it may almost feel-like there is no room for creativity for immigrants, when they are communicating their second language. Immigrants may sometimes find that people constantly are trying to correct them, no matter how better they get with their grammar and spelling, and the way they say things.....

So the question remains, what is the solution to all these mis-interpretations and mis-representations among people. What can people do about improving their communications, without arguing about who is right, or who is telling the truth?!

First, it is important to realize that with verbal communications, people are not usually taught about Moral & Ethical aspect of communicating with one-another. They could go for many years of schooling without realizing how to communicate as a HUMAN beings! Our conceptual communications are mainly being emphasized in the "academic" arena. In academic word, the main emphasis is on conceptualization. So people may figure-out how to correct themselves, to get what they want, many times by trial and error either legally and in business, when they get to the "Mainstream". For example, people may draw contracts, or may try to address things with specific clauses that may only focus-on preventing their business or organization from getting sued. Unfortunately, such practices may overlook the Win-Win aspect of doing business that would benefit all parties.

Second, if we want to succeed in our war of communication, we must decide what is the Purpose of what we want to relay to One-Another. It is not only what we are "saying," but Primarily, it is the Intentions that we have and are trying to COMMUNICATE.......

It is with no doubt that we have all the education we need and the know-hows, as to how to communicate "correctly," and getting better and better. However, the only thing that remains is, in order for us to communicate more effectively, we must define our Purpose and Mission in our lives and choose the VOCABULARIES that best matches Them. For example, we may choose our Circles that best matches our Purpose and Mission more carefully as well. We must LIVE by our own Code-of-Honor that will best define each of us, Individually, when we communicate, and not allow any one to use any other interpretive or "better" vocabulary or grammar that would define us in any other way or order.